Our understanding of domestic abuse
The work at PDVI is underpinned by the following understanding of Domestic Abuse.
- Domestic Abuse is unacceptable behavior
- The right to live free from intimidation, abuse and violence is a basic human right.
- Domestic Abuse is very common – one in four women & one in six men will experience it.
- Domestic Abuse has the potential of being very dangerous – each week in the UK two – three women are killed by a partner or ex- partner.
- The abuser is 100% responsible for their abusive behaviour.
- Domestic Abuse is not the fault or responsibility of the victim & children – nobody ever deserves to be abused.
- Domestic Abuse has a devastating impact on children. On top of the physical risk, it constitutes an emotional abuse of children who witness it or are otherwise aware of it within their home.
- Violence towards a partner or family member is intentional and instrumental behaviour – it’s about power and control over a family member, partner or former partner.
- Violence & or abusive behaviour towards a (ex) partner or family member is learned behaviour.
- Perpetrators can change – their behaviour is within their control and they can choose to stop – however, making changes is far from easy and many people do not have sufficient motivation.
- Victims cannot stop a perpetrator’s violence – but there may be things they can do to increase their own security and that of their children.